- You are not alone. You can get help and there are advocates and specialists who can help;
- You are not to blame nor are you responsible for the abuse;
- Please do not suffer in silence. There are experts who can help;
- You can get good practical advice from the 24hr freephone National Domestic Violence Helpline (run in partnership between Women’s Aid and Refuge) which is available on 0808 2000 247 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and Paladin National Stalking Advocacy Service 0203 866 4107
info@paladinservice.co.uk – www.paladinservice.co.uk in the UK and National Domestic Abuse Hotline in the US on 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) - Please ensure you are aware of the risk factors using the DASH www.dashriskchecklist.co.uk
- Please tell family and friends what is happening to you;
- Do not allow the abuser to isolate you from family and friends;
- Keep a diary of the behaviour and the impact it is having on you;
- Collect all the evidence – texts, emails, social media message, photos, letters, recordings etc;
- Report abuse to police and take the DASH and your diary with you along with the coercive control law