Are you worried about someone?
Domestic abuse is about power and control. It’s important that you are supportive and empower the person to make their own decisions and do not tell them what to do. You can do this in a number of ways:
- Listen to them.
- Believe them.
- Be non-judgemental.
- Acknowledge they are in a difficult situation.
- Ask questions about what is happening.
- Use the DASH with them www.dashriskchecklist.co.uk
- Give them accurate information about who can help.
- Do not be impatient. It takes an abused woman seven times on average to leave an abuser safely.
- Help the person with anything they may need.
- Encourage them to build relationships outside the home.
- Let them know they can count on your support.
- Encourage them to create a safety plan if they want to leave. Leaving is a high-risk time and so this should be planned in a safe way.
- If they end the relationship, let them know that you will support them. N.B. It can feel very frightening to leave everything you know, particularly if you have been isolated for a long time.
- If you are a neighbour and you hear domestic abuse you can call CrimeStoppers Uk anonymously 0800 555 111 or online