Everyone argues from time to time. However, if there is a consistent pattern of behaviour from your partner that intimidates, upsets, hurt, harms, demeans or prevents you from making your own decisions, you may be in a coercively controlling relationship.
Answers these questions:
- Does your partner criticise or undermine you?
- Does your partner prevent you from doing things?
- Does your partner make you feel bad about yourself or your life?
- Do you have to ask permission to do things?
- Does your partner check up on you, follow you or monitor you either in real life or online?
- Does your partner regularly accuse you of flirting, looking at others or cheating on them?
- Is your partner jealous or controlling?
- Do you ever change your behaviour as you are afraid of what your partner will do?
- Do they prevent you from sleeping or taking medication?
- Do they pressure you to drink or take substances?
- Do they pressure you to have sex with them or others?
- Does your partner make the rules and regulations and micro manage you?
- Has your partner prevented you from taking medicine or seeking medical help?
- Has your partner threatened to take the child(ren) away?
- Has your partner tried to stop you leaving the house?
- Has your partner ever made you have sex against your will with them or anyone else or made you do things that made you feel uncomfortable?
- Has your partner ever destroyed your possessions?
- Have you ever been afraid of your partner at any time?
If you answer ‘yes’ you may be being abused.
Answer the DASH Risk Checklist questions here https://www.dashriskchecklist.co.uk/v-dash/
Call the 24hr freephone National Domestic Violence Helpline (run in partnership between Women’s Aid and Refuge) which is available on 0808 2000 247 24 hours a day, 7 days a week